This topic intrigue me. Over a lunch one day an office colleague of mine simply mentioned that MEN in general are polgamyst in nature; they can't stick to one woman. They may marry one but would they stay true to that person? Who knows? I don't disagree with her. But I do feel that infidelity is not caused by men alone. There are a bunch of women out there probably unhappy with their partner, cheat! They seek for emotional support that they don't get from their spouse. Where else men, on the other hand may fall for physical stuff...(the other new physical stuff which they had enough with their current partner)
So, why do we get married if we know that one way or the other we will get bored with our partner? Or we will realized that the romance won't last? We've seen our friends who had been married for years and jokingly they would say "enjoy your couplehood now, wait till you have a baby...things will be different" then they laughed. And we laughed nervously...thinking "Great! What did I got myself into?"
Or they go "yeah lah..honeymoon now la...come and tell me again after 6 months!" Don't sound promising eh?
Does that mean, married couple WILL get bored with their partner somewhere along the line? And when they got bored, they tend to find other people more interesting and attractive? They practically saw everything they need to see in us right? So what else to expect? Things becoming predicatble, routine and mundane. Nothing could happen...until they carrying this exccessive baggage of boringness and suddenly met this interesting individual that caught the attention. Suddenly he/she felt alive! Appreciated (maybe)...The workplace is one of the biggest temptations to relationships! Trust me, a survey by Durex revealed this!
http://www.datingwebsites.org/2010/06/who-cheats-more-men-or-women/
Some facts about this can be found here:
http://www.infidelityfacts.com/index.html
ScienceDaily (Sep. 13, 2008) — The probability of someone cheating during the course of a relationship varies between 40% and 76%.http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/09/080908185238.htm
Interesting article to ponder....
http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Do-Married-People-Cheat?&id=897406
This is a depressing topic really! With the statistics and all, it seems that we are all doomed to be cheated or maybe cheating on our partner if not today maybe 2-3 years time...Does this give the cheating partner to feel good about themselves that, the infidelity behaviour is a painful acceptance by the society? That falling to temptations are just normal?. OK I am getting sick to my stomach now...is it because this is a bitter topic or I just had a lousy lunch just now?
If the statics are to be taken seriously, then the only thing to hold on to is FAITH. Faith that you married the right partner who will be faithful. Faith that you would stay true to what you promised earlier in the relationship. Faith that both of you would see that the relationship both of you build are not just based on love and lust but more of trust and respect.
ReplyDeleteI would understand why people stray but I am optimistic that no matter what the temptation hold out there, people would still see the value of staying in a relationship that brings us happiness in the beginning.
Be optimistic Aida...and have faith. After all, we got Ibu and Ayah as an example of the reward that can be harvest when you stay true....and their marriage was not bed of roses.
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